A couple of months ago, when I was confused and floundering, a friend shared some wisdom with me: when in doubt, try visualizing what you want. It’s simple, but it makes sense — after all, how are you supposed to start working towards something if you don’t even have a real end goal in mind? Consequently, I’ve started trying to translate my vague, restless desires into concrete things. It’s not as if you just set up an alter with some magazine cutouts and wait for things to happen, but there’s real power in asking for something. I know because I’ve been asking lately, and it’s been working.
First, I asked for help. I said, “I’m having a hard time, and I need you.” And help came, immediately, in so many surprising and exciting forms (one form: 2 for $7 Ninkasi). Then, I asked for new perspectives and experiences to help me get out of a rut. I kept my eyes open and saw that they were right in front of me. I went to the beach and looked out into the vastness, did cartwheels in the sun, and heard amazing stories from someone that I’d known, but never really known. I asked for a new path and information started finding its way to me until the path became clear. I also asked for a cookie, and a nice man handed me one in exchange for just $1.50!
Then, I was at a party last weekend, and someone asked to be my friend! I think that’s a fantastic way to do things. Just before that, I’d asked a stranger to be my in-town pen-pal, and she said yes. Why should I not ask for exactly what I want? It’s a small but revolutionary idea to give yourself permission to do the asking.
Here’s something nobody asked for, but I’ll show you anyway. New green handlebar tape!

Wrapped up tight and ready to party. Oh, yeah!